Video: Love Bombing, Brainwashing, Trauma Bonds, Narcissists and Borderlines, Part 1


Abusers employ tactics similar to the brainwashing techniques used by cults. The goal is to weaken you in order to more easily manipulate and control their targets. This video discusses the stages of how narcissists, borderlines and other characterologically disturbed individuals break down your identity. As your sense of self weakens and you’re manipulated into betraying yourself, you concede power to the abuser.

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How to Love a Woman Who’s Been to Hell and Back [Video]


Run like the wind. Sprint like your butt is on fire. Run as if your life depends on it. Because it does.

Having been abused as a child or in adult relationships neither justifies nor excuses abusing others. Nor does it exempt you from taking responsibility for your behaviors and choices. Even if you have a personality disorder. You’re still responsible for your behaviors and choices as an adult.

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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Are You Suffering from Emotional Labor? Or Unrealistic Relationship Expectations? [Video]


Gemma Hartley, blogger who penned the viral article, Women Aren’t Nags — We’re Just Fed Up, and book Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women and the Way Forward seems confused. To paraphrase Inigo Montoya, “Emotional labor. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.” (*Full disclosure: I haven’t read Gemma’s book and have no intention of doing so. The Harper’s Bazaar article was bad enough.)

Gemma seems to have confused the disappointment and resentment she feels due to unrealistic relationship and life expectations with emotional labor. She’s also confusing her choices to make unnecessary work for herself (e.g., elaborately braiding her daughter’s hair or going overboard at Christmas) with emotional labor. Emotional labor is an actual thing, but, I repeat, it does not mean what Gemma thinks it means.

To quote Wikipedia:

Emotional labor is the process of managing feelings and expressions to fulfill the emotional requirements of a job. [1][2] More specifically, workers are expected to regulate their emotions during interactions with customers, co-workers and superiors. This includes analysis and decision making in terms of the expression of emotion, whether actually felt or not, as well as its opposite: the suppression of emotions that are felt but not expressed.”

Not exactly what Gemma claims to be suffering, now is it?

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Adult Toddlers, Part 1: Traits of Emotionally Immature Narcissists and Borderlines [Video]


When arguing with your wife, husband or ex, have you ever felt like you were dealing with a toddler instead of a middle-aged woman or man? Psychologically speaking, that may very well be the case. Emotionally immature, self-absorbed adults who are incapable of reciprocal relationships typically manage conflict very poorly. And that’s an understatement!

Part 1 of this series discusses the shared characteristics of actual toddlers and adults who behave like toddlers. To read the article click HERE.

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Causes of Unhealthy Relationship Patterns for Codependents with Narcissists and Borderlines, Part 1 [Video]


Do you keep choosing the same kinds of relationship partners that initially seem like a dream come true, only to have it result in the same disillusioned heartbreak? Or devolve into yet another one-sided relationship with a self-absorbed, irrational child in the body of an adult?

Perhaps you’ve had opportunities to have relationships with healthier women and men, but freeze up and retreat behind walls you’ve created to protect yourself, but have become a self-imposed prison. If you’d like things to finally change for the better, it’s time to examine your beliefs about yourself, others and relationships. Odds are, that’s what you’ve been tripping over since adolescence.

Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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Blame and Rage: What Narcissists and Borderlines Call Problem-Solving


Emotionally immature people typically have poor problem-solving skills, or a complete lack of them. In intimate relationships, narcissists and borderlines bully, guilt trip, play the victim, throw tantrums, become physically violent, destroy property, disappear, give the silent treatment, name-call, blame shift and engage in other dysfunctional behaviors to silence criticism, evade accountability and justify not making healthy behavioral changes.

Codependents, on the other hand, avoid the conflict, people-please, take the blame for things that aren’t their responsibility, ignore, minimize, guilt trip, behave passive-aggressively, disappear or give the silent treatment in an effort to avoid conflict to preserve relationships. None of theses behaviors are healthy or emotionally mature. Nor do they resolve conflict or other relationship issues in ways that are mutually satisfying.

Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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The Final Child Support Payment to a Borderline or Narcissistic Ex: Brace Yourself, Francis! [Video]


Some ex-spouses accept and plan for the fact that child support will someday come to an end. These same individuals also tend to see child support as temporary supplemental income. Child support isn’t meant to be a parent’s sole revenue stream.

This typically isn’t the case with hostile dependent personalities. Many people with narcissistic, histrionic and borderline traits/disorders tend to be hostile dependent and pathologically entitled. They see child support ending as a form of abandonment. Mind you, child support is for the children. Not an adult who either doesn’t want to work or who wants additional income to what they earn.

If this describes your ex, you can expect an escalation in the worst of her behavior as the child support clock runs down, so plan accordingly!

Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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