VIDEO: Can’t Stop Thinking about the Narcissist or Borderline


Clients are often plagued by seemingly endless ruminations after breaking up with a toxic girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse. This is typically due to codependency and the insidiousness of the trauma bond. In my experience, there are specific kinds of rumination and stages of rumination that track with the grief process.

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VIDEO: The Difference Between Genuine Admiration and Love Bombing


Do you know the difference between love bombing and genuine admiration and affection? First,  respect and appreciation don’t occur at first sight. It develops over time. If you’re vulnerable to love bombing, this video discusses how to distinguish between insincere flattery and the real thing.

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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The First Holiday Season Without the Narcissist or Borderline


fiat tree 3Spending the holidays with a narcissist is often anything but merry. If you’ve been in a relationship with a personality disordered woman or man or come from a family that’s chock full ‘o’ nuts characterological psychopathology, you probably have some nightmare before, during and after Christmas stories. Holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, New Year’s, Valentine’s Day, birthdays . . .  National Arbor Day often trigger narcissistic or borderline rages, tantrums, pout-outs and perfectionist rampages of epic proportions. There are different reasons for this.

As awful as Christmas can be with the Grinch-slash- perpetual adult toddler, the first holiday season after ending an abusive relationship can also be an emotional roller coaster ride. This is especially the case if you allowed yourself to become isolated during the relationship. The same is true for those of you who’ve decided to distance yourself from toxic parents or siblings. The first holiday can be sad, joyous, lonely (although there are few things lonelier than being in a relationship with a narcissist), confusing and/or provide a sense of sweet, sweet relief.

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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VIDEO: What Narcissists and Borderlines Mean by “Unconditional Love”


Being loved unconditionally by your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend seems reasonable, right? Wrong. Unconditional love is for children, not adults. Even with kids, good enough parents love their children, but correct them when they misbehave and teach them right from wrong. What toxic personalities often mean by “unconditional love” is love without accountability. In other words, even if they physically assault you, cheat, lie, smear you or are deliberately cruel to you, you’re not supposed to complain, express hurt or anger and, basically, tolerate their abuse until they tire of you.

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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VIDEO: Why Do Narcissists and Borderlines Enjoy Conflict and Drama?


For many narcissists and borderlines, drama and conflict serve many purposes. Primarily, both conflict and drama are sources of attention and a way to keep their victims engaged. If you’re dealing with this, you know how exhausting it is. This video discusses ways you can disengage and put your focus back on yourself.

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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VIDEO: Do Narcissists Ever Hit Rock Bottom?


If you’re waiting for the narcissist to hit rock bottom in the hopes that she’ll change, stop waiting. Narcissists don’t have a rock bottom. They do, however, hit the Wall of Accountability and that’s a very different thing. Instead, determine what your rock bottom is. In other words, how bad does it need to get before you end the relationship? Furthermore, do you really want to wait for that?

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Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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VIDEO: When the Empathy Well Runs Dry


If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, borderline, psychopath or other toxic personality, you’ll eventually find your empathy well has run dry. That means it’s time for you to take care of you. In this video, I discuss the different stages to being drained of empathy. Hope you find it helpful!

 

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Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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