Myth: Narcissists and Borderlines are Exciting and Healthy People are Boring


Actually, the personality disordered are Boring AF.

This video is based on the article, Why Are Narcissists and Borderlines More Exciting Than Healthy Women and Men?

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Boundaries Protect You from Narcissists and Borderlines


Sneakers from above.Many clients become hyper-focused on spotting personality disorder Red Flags after being in a relationship with an abusive narcissist, borderline or psychopath. They’re reluctant to date again until they feel certain they’ll be able to detect all the warning signs. This is understandable. After being burned that badly, of course you don’t want to go through that kind of soul sucking, gut wrenching, heart breaking, mindfuckery ever again.

After getting violently ill from bad shellfish, you want to be certain the next plate of oysters isn’t toxic. While being able to identify bullies, selfish jerks, the emotionally immature, emotional vampires, the pathologically entitled — whatever you call these individuals — is important, it’s only half the equation. The other half of the equation is YOU.

At the risk of sounding like a broken MP3 file, you have to have boundaries. And having boundaries begins with self-respect and self-care. Self-respect and self-care have a reciprocal relationship. If you respect yourself you take care of yourself. If you take care of yourself you’re less likely to allow others to disrespect and mistreat you.

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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VIDEO: Narcissist Fight Club Rule #3: The Fight Isn’t Over Until You Admit You’re Wrong


To a narcissist or borderline, the more right you are the more wrong you are. Conflict is about getting a win. The substance of the argument is irrelevant. The narcissist’s and borderline’s false self demands that they be the “righteous victim.”

Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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VIDEO: Can’t Stop Thinking about the Narcissist or Borderline


Clients are often plagued by seemingly endless ruminations after breaking up with a toxic girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse. This is typically due to codependency and the insidiousness of the trauma bond. In my experience, there are specific kinds of rumination and stages of rumination that track with the grief process.

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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VIDEO: The Difference Between Genuine Admiration and Love Bombing


Do you know the difference between love bombing and genuine admiration and affection? First,  respect and appreciation don’t occur at first sight. It develops over time. If you’re vulnerable to love bombing, this video discusses how to distinguish between insincere flattery and the real thing.

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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The First Holiday Season Without the Narcissist or Borderline


fiat tree 3Spending the holidays with a narcissist is often anything but merry. If you’ve been in a relationship with a personality disordered woman or man or come from a family that’s chock full ‘o’ nuts characterological psychopathology, you probably have some nightmare before, during and after Christmas stories. Holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, New Year’s, Valentine’s Day, birthdays . . .  National Arbor Day often trigger narcissistic or borderline rages, tantrums, pout-outs and perfectionist rampages of epic proportions. There are different reasons for this.

As awful as Christmas can be with the Grinch-slash- perpetual adult toddler, the first holiday season after ending an abusive relationship can also be an emotional roller coaster ride. This is especially the case if you allowed yourself to become isolated during the relationship. The same is true for those of you who’ve decided to distance yourself from toxic parents or siblings. The first holiday can be sad, joyous, lonely (although there are few things lonelier than being in a relationship with a narcissist), confusing and/or provide a sense of sweet, sweet relief.

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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VIDEO: What Narcissists and Borderlines Mean by “Unconditional Love”


Being loved unconditionally by your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend seems reasonable, right? Wrong. Unconditional love is for children, not adults. Even with kids, good enough parents love their children, but correct them when they misbehave and teach them right from wrong. What toxic personalities often mean by “unconditional love” is love without accountability. In other words, even if they physically assault you, cheat, lie, smear you or are deliberately cruel to you, you’re not supposed to complain, express hurt or anger and, basically, tolerate their abuse until they tire of you.

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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