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I Ain’t Saying She’s a Gold Digger: Entitled Wall Street Wives Bail on Their Husbands


Extra! Extra! The Wall Street crisis is having a far greater impact than previously imagined! In addition to taxpayer-funded bailouts, tens of thousands of layoffs of hardworking people, banks600children whose parents have lost health care, mortgage foreclosures and a rising homeless population, there’s another casualty of the financial meltdown: The wives, girlfriends and mistresses of Wall Street bankers, financiers, and traders.

According to the New York Times article, It’s the Economy, Girlfriend: “Once it was seen as a blessing in certain circles to have a wealthy, powerful partner who would leave you alone with the credit card while he was busy brokering deals. Now, many Wall Street wives, girlfriends and, increasingly, exes, are living the curse of cutbacks in nanny hours and reservations at Masa or Megu. And that credit card? Canceled.”

Wow, where do I begin? How about their seemingly gross lack of emotional support for men whom they supposedly love? Instead of helping their husbands and boyfriends, they’ve formed a “support group” where they mourn the loss of their carefree shopping sprees and weekends in the Hamptons. The craziest thing about this gaggle of entitled, shallow women is that they actually take themselves seriously. I’m waiting for their televised charity benefit, “Blahniks for Selfish Chicks.” Maybe Bono will perform?

“They shared their sad stories the other night at an informal gathering of Dating a Banker Anonymous, a support group founded in November to help women cope with the inevitable relationship fallout from, say, the collapse of Lehman Brothers…In addition to meeting once or twice weekly for brunch or drinks at a bar or restaurant, the group has a blog…that invites women to join ‘if your monthly Bergdorf’s allowance has been halved and bottle service has all but disappeared from your life.'”

The Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale lists being fired from work, business readjustment, change in financial state, change to different line of work, change in responsibilities at work, and starting a new job in the top 20 highly stressful life events index. Instead of offering understanding and reducing their spending, the women depicted in this NYT articlegold-digger whine about canceled credit cards, their husbands/boyfriends being too distracted to pay attention to them, and cutbacks on dining out and vacations. Cry me a river.

These women blame the economy for their current relationship troubles, and not, oh, I don’t know, their utter lack of empathy and fair weather affections. Yes, their relationships have suffered because of the economic downturn, but you have to ask, did these women really love these men or the lifestyle they afforded them when they were living off the their husband’s/boyfriend’s fat salaries?

Several of their relationships with F.B.F.’s (Financial Guy Boyfriends) have ended. They also attribute this to job stress, failing to take into account their self-centered responses and selfish insistence for more material goods. One woman recounts that her boyfriend told her to “grow up” and stop “complaining about vacations and dinner” since he had to “fire 20 people by the end of the week.” Good for him.

Here’s a thought: If you want more Jimmy Choos and trips to the Caribbean, pay for it with money that you earn and if you can’t, STOP COMPLAINING. It’s easy to be loving when times are high; the real test of a relationship is when the chips and stocks are down. It’s extremely difficult to feel sorry for these women, however, you have to wonder about the kind of men who were attracted to them.

Looks like these guys used the same faulty judgment in their choice of relationships as they did in the financial market: High short-term yield, but worthless when the market crashes. It just goes to show how out of touch some of these Wall Street guys and their entitled, pilot fish girlfriends/wives actually are. I guess they missed Obama’s message of personal responsibility, pitching in and working hard. Can you declare emotional bankruptcy?

by Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

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Spoiled Women Anonymous on NYT.

Gold digger unknown source.

  1. Billiekent
    January 23, 2014 at 4:16 am

    Hey, these guys may be rich but they are still people. No one deserves any sort of abuse. In fact, I doubt they knew what they were “getting into.” Imagine the honey moon phase of an abusive relationship spent at a 5 star hotel on a tropical island.

  2. Darrell
    July 2, 2013 at 10:04 am

    lol, I didn’t realize this article was 3 years ago. my bad!

  3. Darrell
    July 2, 2013 at 10:04 am

    I haven’t been able to sleep lately due to work, family dealings, etc and not making time for a relationship with anyone, but this article made me crack up at 4:58am this morning! Kudos to you Doc!

    The one person who said these gold digging hussies weren’t really good for anything but a “one night stand”. Well, I think the operative anology should be “one night trade” being sex and money is being exchanged as time goes by. The men and women who engage in this demeaning immoral behavior really need to have their ass kicked back to reality! lol Excuse my french! Good day from Texas!

  4. Kari
    May 3, 2010 at 2:40 am

    Just goes to show you–God (or Higher Power, Great Spirit, etc.) does not sanction all marriages. Yeah, the vows state: “in sickness and health” but that doesn’t mean you should commit yourselves to someone who will take you away from your religious beliefs (i.e. contemplating suicide, feeling worthless, considering violence).

    So many people (inluding myself the first time) get married for screwed up reasons – lust, security (read: money), desperation, loneliness, fear, guilt and obligation.

    I don’t believe that God (Higher Power, etc.) would want anyone to promise Him to put up with abuse for the rest of their lives. It’s like saying “I promise to move farther and farther away from you spiritually, until one day, I decide to hand my soul over to the devil (i.e. suicide, going crazy, striking back, becoming violent…).” The God I choose to believe in didn’t want me to promise Him that.

    I learned from my experience that sometimes, marriage is the mistake, for which divorce is the correction.

    A Christian Woman’s 2cents.

  5. finallywokeup
    March 22, 2010 at 1:57 pm

    Dr. T, good and I think overlooked blog article you wrote here. I am stunned when I read a woman saying something like “How about their seemingly gross lack of emotional support for men whom they supposedly love?”, because I realize that such support was almost completely lacking from my ex-wife. When things were less than Easy Street, I not only got no emotional support from her, but her demands actually INCREASED. This total lack of empathy is shocking and frightening at the receiving end.

    Could you maybe expand on this aspect of emotional abuse (the colder, more covert, more calculating type) in a more general context? I think it is harder for men to recognize this sort of abuse because it is more subtle. I put up with it for over ten years, and still was not going to quit, until she walked out on me and our child in order to “teach” me to provide her a better lifestyle, or she was never going to come back. Only then could I see clearly enough to divorce her, and even so I needed the prodding of a lawyer and counselor.

    Thank you again for your website, every once in a while I go through and re-read all of the articles to re-ground myself.

  6. NoSeRider
    October 13, 2009 at 10:54 pm

    I find that most people don’t recognize borderline or narcissistic personality disorders until it’s adverse behavior is happening to you. What is really paramount is their total self absorbtion. 80 percent of the time they’re talking about themselves or criticizing others, and after awhile it just becomes grading. Like listening to a broken record….those old time vynl ones.

    I don’t know why anybody would want to marry somebody that is vapid? It’s like keeping company with a crocodile.

  7. jham123
    October 13, 2009 at 8:46 pm

    Jelly :
    I’m sure these men knew what they were getting into when they walked down the aisle. If you’ve ever socialised long enough with these banker-types, one thing you’ll discover is how incredibly superficial and shallow these men can be.

    So these Banker types…..They “deserved” what they got huh Jelly??

    jham123 :

    Jelly :
    jham123- It varies from person to person. I won’t be shedding any tears for them either way.

    Jelly :
    Secondly, I never agreed with any acts of verbal/emotional/physical abuse. Any form of abuse is deplorable.

  8. Jelly
    October 13, 2009 at 6:22 pm

    First of all, your personal issues are affecting your judgment. Did your girlfriend beat you up this morning or something? Seriously.

    Secondly, I never agreed with any acts of verbal/emotional/physical abuse. Any form of abuse is deplorable.

    Thirdly, where in this article did you read any instance of these women being ‘abusive’? If anything, they are your typical spoilt, materialistic, childish golddiggers that so many rich men just LOVE to date/marry. It seems like they’re nagging, moany whingebags if anything.

  9. jham123
    October 13, 2009 at 6:06 pm

    Jelly :
    jham123- It varies from person to person. I won’t be shedding any tears for them either way.

    So you agree with the premise that “some” deserve to be abused? I’ve never really agreed with that whole line of thinking. Maybe it’s just me. But I’ll run with your assertion. Next time the Police show up and see a poor woman with a fresh Black eye or a missing tooth, They should question the boyfriend/Husband to find out exactly what she said….maybe she deserved that Shiner for her belligerence huh?

    Maybe the next time a woman is raped, The police should consider what she was wearing…….ya know….A skirt so short she needed Two hair styles….I guess a provocatively dressed female “Had it coming” when she gets Gang raped…..(but only in your world with your line of thinking…hey let’s be consistent with our feelings on just who deserves to be abused).

  10. Jelly
    October 13, 2009 at 5:56 pm

    jham123- It varies from person to person. I won’t be shedding any tears for them either way.

    Matt SF- Yeah, I already know that.

  11. jham123
    October 13, 2009 at 1:55 am

    Jelly :
    I’m sure these men knew what they were getting into when they walked down the aisle. If you’ve ever socialised long enough with these banker-types, one thing you’ll discover is how incredibly superficial and shallow these men can be.

    So these Banker types…..They “deserved” what they got huh Jelly??

  12. Jelly
    October 12, 2009 at 9:05 pm

    I’m sure these men knew what they were getting into when they walked down the aisle. If you’ve ever socialised long enough with these banker-types, one thing you’ll discover is how incredibly superficial and shallow these men can be.

    • October 13, 2009 at 2:00 am

      If you’ve ever socialized with the NYC ladies who are attracted to those “banker types”, you’ll realize those ladies can be just as shallow and superficial.

  13. jham123
    September 20, 2009 at 4:11 pm

    Even though I’m not a Banker…..more along the lines of a working class stiff…..How are these women different that what I am experiencing daily with my Wife?

    One way is of course $$$$, which I don’t have.

    But the bottom line remains, every financial woe that occurs in my household is my fault…yet she has yet to start sending out resume’s looking for any kind of work….She’d rather run around and slander me to anyone that will listen about how inadequate I am as a provider…..

    • Kari
      May 3, 2010 at 2:34 am

      No amount of $,$$$,$$$.$$ will ever be enough…external tangibles cannot fill up the empty void inside…so those who try, will enevitably fail, over and over…maybe your best bet is tell her your broke…she’ll leave, move on the to the next one, and you are free to find happiness…just a thought!

  14. January 28, 2009 at 11:42 pm

    The 20 something girls and other professional Wall Street leeches mentioned in this hilarious NYT article should be used for daytrades (aka – one night stands) and nothing more.

    Buy’m, Sell’m, and split with the profits.

    Take it from a trader… they may be good for an occasional encounter, but they’re not worth the long term volatility!

    • shrink4men
      January 29, 2009 at 12:31 am

      Very funny, Matt!

      I never cease to be amazed by how some women believe it is their birthright to have their lives and every whim paid for by someone else. Presumably most of these women are college grads, but I suppose pulling their fare share “isn’t what they signed up for.”

      Dr T

      • Mellaril
        March 22, 2010 at 2:13 pm

        Probably with degrees in “Women’s Sudies…”

        • Mellaril
          March 22, 2010 at 2:14 pm

          “Studies”

  15. January 28, 2009 at 10:20 pm

    Great piece Dr. T!
    Funny, I posted a similar response at:

    http://www.nbcchicago.com/news/us_world/Rich-Miserable-Jerks-and-Their-Rich-Miserable-Wives.html?corder=reverse

    Who are these women and why aren’t these men glad to see them go, as obviously, they obviously were not really there to begin with.

    • shrink4men
      January 28, 2009 at 11:22 pm

      Thanks, Victoria! Just visited the NBC link and left my own comment in which I came up with the idea for a charity benefit, “Blahniks for Shallow Chicks” to be emceed by Bono and updated my original post. Sometimes the muse is on time delay.

  16. shrink4men
    January 28, 2009 at 8:13 pm

    Thanks, Bill.

    I appreciate it.

    Kind Regards,
    Dr T

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