Why Some Women Turn Deadly During Divorce


There’s a new post on http://www.shrink4men.com that explores why some high-conflict people and/or individuals with personality disorders kill their children or former spouses during a divorce.

Here’s the link:

Why Some High-Conflict Personality Women Kill

Kind Regards,

Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

  1. Adrian
    March 8, 2013 at 12:29 pm

    The simple reason that (some) women try this crap is because they know they can get away with it. Opportunism is an unfortunate part of human nature that tends to be most prevalent where a demographic can avoid culpability for their actions by falsely asserting to be victims or by asserting special privileges.

    Not all women are this way. But unless they have been raised with a functional moral compass, in the absence of extrinsic motivators they have no reason not to engage in capricious and spiteful behaviour, particularly where it is likely to lead to short term emotional gratification, especially in the form of sympathy or accommodation by others.

    If the these types of women were successfully sued for slander, convicted for perjury, had to pay back all the legal aid that gets wasted on frivolous lawsuits and were made social pariahs within their own social group for falsely eliciting people’s sympathy they’d think twice about doing it….

    Unfortunately the courts, police and feminists often see women through rose coloured glasses. It’s no different than the parent that denies that their child is capable of misbehaving at school; the end result is that the child winds up being a spoiled little turd…..

    That said, in all fairness every bastard that beats on women, molests his kids or harasses his coworkers makes it so much harder for every guy who is doing the right thing.

    Here’s a hint for any women out there wanting men’s respect; you get respect from men the same way that men get respect from men. Men get respect from men by acting with integrity and owning their behaviour. Try doing the same.

  2. Fran
    January 23, 2011 at 11:30 pm

    Sorry Eddy but if we felt sorry for everyone who couldn’t help how they are maybe we should let everyone out of prison to hang out with your our kids!
    I say, be afraid – be very afraid of HCPs.! My daughter-in-law has been torturing my son and myself for more than 3 years now. On top of this she’s also violent. After reading “Why Some Women Turn Deadly During Divorce”, and having heard her say she would like to kill my son and more than once saying her wish that he was dead, I am afraid of her. My son was involved with WEAVE (women against a violent environment [also for men]) for a while till they told him to call the police the next time she attacked him and that backfired on him sending him to jail instead of her, even though he was the one who called! On another occasion, she punched him continually in the head while they were in the middle of a car wash with my two grandsons in the back seat screaming. No one could hear and they couldn’t get out. She is definitely someone to fear! Thank God my son has (after 3 tries) moved out for good. He can only see his kids when she’s OK, which can change from moment to moment. As for me, I’m not allowed to see the kids. I have been accused of horrible things – none of which are true. From drugging HER children to robbing her house and so much more – too ridiculous to waste time writing! I’m at this point seriously considering suing for slander. Not for money, but for a chance at a lie detector test sitting right next to her to make her prove her accusations! I want her to PROVE the crap she accuses me of so she can be the loser and I can see my grandsons that I love and miss so much! These people have to be stopped! We allow much to much of this to go on! HCP need to be recognized in society so people like my son and myself can have a chance!
    Also, law enforcement should be schooled on these type of people so they can be a little less prejudice toward men in domestic situations!
    I pray every day for my sons recovery from this evil woman and for my poor grandchildren.
    Please keep up with these articles! Maybe more and more people will come forward with what they are going through and this will become more clear and real – like it is!!

  3. DaPoet
    November 21, 2010 at 12:11 pm

    Eddy agrees with the above point, but here’s where he loses me. In It’s All YOUR Fault! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything, Eddy has a section called Be Wary of Labelers in which he states (p. 330):

    I have emphasized having empathy and respect for HCPs. They didn’t choose to be this way, and many of them have been victims of abuse or trauma, which has triggered overactive high-conflict thinking. I’ve encouraged you to be sensitive to HCPs, their Negative Advocates, and the Community you’re in.
    _______________________________________________

    I disagree strongly with Eddy’s claim that HCP’s don’t choose to be this way. Behavior whether negative or positive is always a choice that everyone makes {including HCP’s} and have to live with the consequences.

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