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OurFamilyWizard: A System to Co-Parent with an Abusive, High-Conflict Ex, Part 1

There’s a new article on www.shrink4men.com. It’s the first article in a three part series about the OurFamilyWizard co-parenting communications system. This piece explains how OurFamilyWizard can decrease the level of stress and conflict in your high-conflict custody case and help you manage and expose a high-conflict co-parent.

Here’s the link:

OurFamilyWizard: An Excellent Tool for Co-Parenting with a High-Conflict Person, Part 1

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  1. February 28, 2017 at 1:58 pm

    OFW is great for documentation…..esp. with a verbose abusive woman.
    It does not help with everything,but works very well at some.
    Unfortunately we are now in full parental alienation because our 14 yr. old is not coming at all—just for holidays. It is heartbreaking to see what this final hurtful act(I know it is NOT the end game for this woman) is doing to both the child and my husband. Thankfully my spouse has been experiencing Crazy for so long he is just enjoying the time he does get with his children. These poor girls are so damaged and I can only pray that our patient and caring ways will help them not continue the pattern of abuse.

  2. April 12, 2011 at 2:21 am

    I would love to find out if this really works…it seems to me if a narcissist or borderline is allowed ANY contact with you they will continue to act out.

    • shrink4men
      April 12, 2011 at 9:42 am

      Hi Pauline,

      You can never completely contain, neutralize or prevent these types from from acting out and, well, being who they are, altogether. Anyone who claims you can “learn not to trigger them” or completely manage their acting out 100% is probably arrogant, a fool or both. However, you can make it more difficult for them to act out by rigorously documenting their behavior. Most of these types fear exposure, which is why OFW can be effective. If the other parent doesn’t care about exposure, I would hope the OFW communication logs can be used to demonstrate the bad behavior to a judge.

  3. Alreadylost
    April 8, 2011 at 2:19 pm

    I would almost bet that this system was initially developed strictly with abusive MEN in mind never dreaming that it might be used to actually help us document that some women are abusive too. The most important outcome, however, is the positive impact it will have on children when HCPs of either gender are involved in co-parenting. My hat is off to you Dr T. Keep up the great work fighting for the rights of the abused

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