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Winning an Argument with a Narcissist, Part 2


winston-churchill-1943-the-famous-victory-saluteIn Part One, I explained why it’s  impossible to win an argument with a narcissist, borderline or psychopath if you engage with them on their level (i.e., an irrational, petulant, belligerent, emotional reasoning, self-absorbed, poo flinging toddler). So how do you really win an argument with a narcissist?

Don’t argue. Don’t trade insults, no matter how tempting. Don’t JADE: justify, argue, defend or explain yourself. Don’t hurl psychiatric labels at them. Don’t send them links to Shrink4Men or CrazyBusters. Don’t try to give them a taste of their own medicine. And don’t try to out-narcissist a narcissist or out-borderline a borderline or out-psychopath a psychopath. If you aren’t personality disordered yourself, you simply cannot out-crazy Crazy. You could try, but it will require you to operate outside of your integrity and then you have to live with that.

In order to win an argument with a narcissist you must first redefine what winning means. READ MORE.

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  1. Fran
    March 22, 2017 at 2:36 am

    GREAT article! So on target! I am the mother of a wonderful young man who was nearly destroyed by this type of person. Luckily he has escaped and is moving on. Though I still see the pain from his loss of “self” from time to time. She sucked so much life from him. And you are totally right on with the 7 times of leaving before having it be final. I counted about that many. All of them horrific and mentally damaging. I would like to thank you so much for being there. I’ve read so many articles over these last years and been so grateful that you have verified that this is a REAL thing! I’ve shared many stories and articles (reading some of them out loud) with my son and believe that they have been a large part of him having the strength to escape!
    It’s not unlike getting off of a drug. I feel so much pain for anyone going through this abuse in their life!
    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all of your input and help – you have no idea how much you have helped!
    Namaste – A saved man’s mother.

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