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Should You Trust an Apology from a Narcissist or Borderline?

Narcissist or borderline apologizes should you break no contactThe first thing that comes to mind is Admiral Ackbar, “It’s a trap!”

The second thing that comes to mind is the expression, “A day late and a dollar short.” Or a pound short, a euro short, a franc short, a drachma short, a doubloon short — you get the idea.

But wait! narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths and other abusers don’t apologize, right? Yes and no.

Admitting wrong doing definitely isn’t the norm, but sometimes they mouth the words, “I’m sorry.” However, that doesn’t mean the narcissist is genuinely remorseful. Truly being sorry means the person who has harmed you:

1) Recognizes what they’ve done that is hurtful. For example, lying to you, cheating on you, ridiculing you, etc.

2) Understands why it’s hurtful.

3) Feels bad about hurting you (this isn’t the same as feeling bad about being held accountable and experiencing consequences for being a shit).

4) Makes a conscious good faith effort not to hurt you in that way again.


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  1. Michael S Cohn Ph.D.
    August 2, 2017 at 12:25 am

    No apology from someone with a Cluster B disorder can ever be trusted. I should think you would be aware of this.

    • shrink4men
      August 2, 2017 at 12:55 am

      I am aware of this. I should think you would be aware of this if you read the article.

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