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You Might Be in a Relationship with a Narcissist If . . . You Apologize to Inanimate Objects

Shrink4Men_You might be in a relationship with a narcissist if_You apologize to inanimate objects when you bump into themIf you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist or other abusive personality, you’ve probably become conditioned to preface many of your spoken and written statements with, “I’m sorry.”

I’m sorry to bother you.

I’m sorry I have feelings and needs.

I’m sorry you had to cheat on me.

I’m sorry I can’t read your mind.

I’m sorry I ruined your life.

I’m sorry I got blood on your sleeve when you hit me.

I’m sorry I made you behave badly.

I’m sorry for breathing too loudly.

I’m sorry for taking too much room on the bed (as your ass hangs over the edge of the mattress.)


A fundamental diagnostic criteria of the Cluster B disorders (i.e., narcissists, borderlines, histrionics, sociopaths/psychopaths) is a lifelong pattern of blaming others for their problems — particularly the self-created ones — and a refusal to hold themselves accountable. Oftentimes, their partners, children, employees, etc., will learn to reflexively take the blame and apologize in an effort to avoid or minimize the tantrums, rages, pout outs and silent treatments. This typically ends up backfiring on you, however.


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  1. basilica
    December 2, 2018 at 3:53 pm

    I think that was the first sign that there was something seriously disordered about my relationship. When it ended I moved back in with a relative. For the first few months she would ask me why I was saying sorry all the time for the most trivial things. It was because during my relationship it seemed to be the only thing that sometimes prevented my ex’s rages.

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