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Narcissist Dictionary: Why Are You Being So Mean?!?!?!?

Shrink4Men_Narcissist Dictionary_Why are you being so meanWant to see a narcissist, psychopath or borderline go from aggressor to professional victim in .001 seconds flat? That’s easy. It typically happens whenever the narcissist is held accountable, publicly exposed for their misdeeds or actual crimes or someone pushed back and treated the narcissist the way the narcissist treats others. If you’re on the receiving end of this kind of role reversal otherwise known as DARVO (Deny, Attack and Reverse Victim and Offender) it can be incredibly crazy-making.

When most of us think of bullies, we tend to conjure up images of the playground bully who took our lunch money or the mean girl in high school who excelled in relational aggression — by socially excluding peers, gossiping and encouraging their followers and wannabe’s to follow suit. Bullies, whether they’re children or adults, are frequently the traditional in your face jerks. Their predations are overt and, therefore, easier to identify.

But there’s another kind of bully that’s more covert and difficult to identify — the cry baby bully. The bully who goes from smug, unrepentant asshole to a blubbering, sympathy-seeking gaslighter-projector as soon as they get a taste of their own medicine or are called out for their nonsense. Narcissists and their ilk also play cry baby victim when old or new potential targets enforce boundaries and don’t allow themselves to be manipulated or exploited by the narcissist. Why do narcissists, psychopaths and borderlines do this?

Because it’s effective.


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  1. PC
    November 2, 2018 at 6:12 pm

    Precise analysis by Dr. T! Often wonder how to put across and to convince court about these erratic behaviors and the hardship faced in our life due to these.

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