Dating Again, Part 3: Learning to Appreciate the Mundane
This is Part 3 of the Dating Again series (Part 1 and Part 2). Unhealthy, dysfunctional and/or abusive relationships are often characterized by highs and lows, emotional intensity, hyper-arousal (i.e., the fight, flight or freeze response) and feelings of emptiness, numbness and worthlessness. In this video, I explain the necessity of learning to appreciate calmness, stability, predictability, a consistent sense of well-being and emotional security, or the mundane. Healthy relationships aren’t emotional roller coasters.
Healthier partners don’t activate childhood feelings of worthlessness and feeling separate from humanity.
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Boundaries inventory. I like that .
I will take your advice.
Thank you
You’re great! Doing a service for the greater good of humanity. Chasing crazy is not a quest worthy cause nor necessity! Recently ended a 3.5 year volatile romance and ironically and woman showed up I’ve known for years as a friend. She needed help I offfered her assistance by sharing my domicile until she got on her feet. Totally friends but definitely an attractive lovely woman that has the me keeping a choker on my passion for the sake of the greater good! She just moved and in the process we gave each what we needed and who knows what the future will bring. Nice to move beyond cray cray and hopefully for good!