Posts Tagged ‘abusive wife’

How Narcissists and Borderlines Abuse Text Messages and Emojis

Shrink4Men_Red Flags_Expresses feelings primarily through emoji via text messagesAs part of my work with clients, I sometimes review text communications from abusive and likely personality disordered spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends and exes. It’s not exactly what one would describe as enjoyable reading material. Much of it is venomous, relentless, dictatorial and angry bloviating sentence fragments or walls of text dripping with entitlement. The texts are often written and sent in a staccato, rapid fire assault. In many cases, whether the recipient responds or not is irrelevant. They just keep text, text, text, texting.

Clients share these messages for different reasons. Some are looking for validation that they’re not crazy and that their partner’s behavior is, in fact, abusive. Some want to know if the texts or emails will help them in their divorce or custody cases. Some clients want help determining what messages to respond to and which to ignore as they begin Low Contact and BIFF communication (brief, informative, firm, friendly business-like) due to shared children (no kids – No Contact). Some want help understanding what they’re doing wrong. Typically, what they’re doing wrong is engaging in pointless, circular arguments they can’t win or JADE-ing (justifying, arguing, defending, explaining) to someone who manufactures pointless, circular arguments they can’t win.


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Does your Wife, Girlfriend or Ex Harass and Stalk You Via Telephone?

There’s a new article on that discusses women who use the telephone, email and other communication devices to stalk and harass their husbands, boyfriends and exes while they are at work and outside the home. It also discusses the recent news story of the Dutch woman who is being prosecuted for stalking by making 65,000 phone calls to a man with whom she claims to have had a romantic relationship.

Here’s the link:

You Have 65,000 Missed Calls: Women Who Use Telephones as Weapons to Stalk and Harass

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Dr Tara J. Palmatier provides confidential, fee-for-service, consultation/coaching services to help both men and women work through their relationship issues via telephone and/or Skype chat. Her practice combines practical advice, support, reality testing and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Shrink4Men Services page for professional inquiries.