Dirty Tricks in High-Conflict Custody Disputes, Part 1: Be Prepared

There’s a new article on www.Shrink4Men.com that discusses common dirty tricks used by high-conflict people and/or abusive personality disordered individuals who refuse to cooperate and be responsible co-parents. It prepares the non-HCP and non-disordered parents for what to expect when they share custody with a parent who is determined to obstruct parental access and alienate the children from the other parent.

Here’s the link:

Family Court Minefields: Dirty Tricks Used by High-Conflict People in Custody Disputes and Parallel Parenting, Part 1

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Why Abusive, Crazy Women Drag Out the Divorce Process

There’s a new article on www.Shrink4Men.com that examines 4 personality factors that may cause high-conflict and/or abusive personality disordered women to drag out the divorce process and prolong the conflict. It also explores their rationale for doing so.

Here’s the link:

Why High-Conflict and Abusive Personality Disordered Women Drag Out the Divorce Process

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Shrink4Men Comment of the Week: Co-Parenting with a High-Conflict Ex and No Contact

There’s a new post on www.Shrink4Men.com that features a comment by Shrink4Men community member, JP. He offers advice on how to minimize contact with an abusive, high-conflict ex-wife when you have to co-parent with her.

Here’s the link:

Shrink4Men Comment of the Week: How to Minimize Contact with your Abusive Ex-Wife When You Are Co-Parents

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Dr Tara J. Palmatier provides confidential, fee-for-service, consultation/coaching services to help both men and women work through their relationship issues via telephone and/or Skype chat. Her practice combines practical advice, support, reality testing and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Shrink4Men Services page for professional inquiries.

The High-Conflict Mind: Able to Judge, But Not to Discern and How It Affects You

There’s a new article  on www.shrink4men.com that explores the difference between the judging mind versus the discerning mind. It makes the argument that many high-conflict and/or abusive personality-disordered individuals judge others based on their own inconsistent emotional states, but are unable to assess situations with logical and factual discernment. It also explores the results of this phenomenon, which include splitting (i.e., black and white/all-or-nothing thinking) and ongoing abuse directed toward the partner of the high-conflict individual or anyone who challenges or criticizes the high-conflict individual.

Here’s the link:

High-Conflict and Abusive Personality-Disordered Women: The Emotional Judging Mind Vs. the Discerning Mind

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Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Extreme No Contact: Delete Your Ex from the Internet!

One of my clients sent me the following link for a web plugin for Firefox and Chrome browsers (sorry Explorer, Safari and Netscape users!) that allows you to “delete” your ex from your life—at least your online life. Here’s the link:

http://gizmodo.com/5585741/delete-your-ex-from-the-internet

It’s called the “Ex-Blocker,” and it’s rather like the web/non-brain damage version of the memory eraser depicted in one of my favorite films, The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

According to the article on Gizmodo.com, the Ex-Blocker plugin “filters your ex out of the internet for you. Simply feed it their first and last names, their Twitter username, their Facebook profile info and their blog URL, and it takes care of the rest. Sure, photos can slip through the cracks, I’m sure. And you’ll have to set up an email filter yourself if you want to cut off contact completely.”

If you’ve made the decision to go No Contact, but are still getting Facebook, MySpace and Tweet updates from the ex-Twit about how “amazing” her new boyfriend is, how she’s “never been happier” and that she regrets dating all of her “ex-jerk loser boyfriends,” this plugin might just bring you that last bit of peace of mind you seek.

To download the plugin, visit:

http://blockyourex.com/

While this plugin will keep your ex from popping up on the Internet, it’s up to you to install rock solid boundaries to prevent her from popping up in your offline life. If only there was a plugin download for that!

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