VIDEO: What Narcissists and Borderlines Mean by “Unconditional Love”


Being loved unconditionally by your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend seems reasonable, right? Wrong. Unconditional love is for children, not adults. Even with kids, good enough parents love their children, but correct them when they misbehave and teach them right from wrong. What toxic personalities often mean by “unconditional love” is love without accountability. In other words, even if they physically assault you, cheat, lie, smear you or are deliberately cruel to you, you’re not supposed to complain, express hurt or anger and, basically, tolerate their abuse until they tire of you.

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VIDEO: Why Do Narcissists and Borderlines Enjoy Conflict and Drama?


For many narcissists and borderlines, drama and conflict serve many purposes. Primarily, both conflict and drama are sources of attention and a way to keep their victims engaged. If you’re dealing with this, you know how exhausting it is. This video discusses ways you can disengage and put your focus back on yourself.

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VIDEO: Do Narcissists Ever Hit Rock Bottom?


If you’re waiting for the narcissist to hit rock bottom in the hopes that she’ll change, stop waiting. Narcissists don’t have a rock bottom. They do, however, hit the Wall of Accountability and that’s a very different thing. Instead, determine what your rock bottom is. In other words, how bad does it need to get before you end the relationship? Furthermore, do you really want to wait for that?

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VIDEO: When the Empathy Well Runs Dry


If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, borderline, psychopath or other toxic personality, you’ll eventually find your empathy well has run dry. That means it’s time for you to take care of you. In this video, I discuss the different stages to being drained of empathy. Hope you find it helpful!

 

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VIDEO: Narcissists, Circular Arguments, Emotional Reasoning and JADE (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain)


For narcissists, borderlines and other abusive personalities, the point of conflict is not to resolve disagreements or relationship difficulties. Are you making basic conflict mistakes with your narcissistic wife, girlfriend or ex?

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Do Narcissists Ever Hit Rock Bottom?


Drawing Big Hand - Cartoon Businessman Going DownDo narcissists have a line they won’t cross? Is there a low too low for them to go? Do they eventually see the error of their ways? Do they ever hit rock bottom?”  I’ve been asked these questions more times than I can recall. In most cases, what clients are really asking is, “Can my narcissistic wife, girlfriend, husband, boyfriend, child, parent or sibling change? Will they ever get better? Will we ever go back to those halcyon love bombing days?”

Hitting rock bottom is an addictions treatment term. It’s the lowest self-destructive point to which the addict must sink before she or he admits they have a problem and seeks help. Do narcissists ever hit rock bottom? Do they change?

In my experience, the answer is NO. Narcissists may eventually hit a Wall of Accountability, but that’s different than hitting bottom (more on this later). So just how low can a narcissist go?

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Narcissist Dictionary: Why Are You Being So Mean?!?!?!?


Shrink4Men_Narcissist Dictionary_Why are you being so meanWant to see a narcissist, psychopath or borderline go from aggressor to professional victim in .001 seconds flat? That’s easy. It typically happens whenever the narcissist is held accountable, publicly exposed for their misdeeds or actual crimes or someone pushed back and treated the narcissist the way the narcissist treats others. If you’re on the receiving end of this kind of role reversal otherwise known as DARVO (Deny, Attack and Reverse Victim and Offender) it can be incredibly crazy-making.

When most of us think of bullies, we tend to conjure up images of the playground bully who took our lunch money or the mean girl in high school who excelled in relational aggression — by socially excluding peers, gossiping and encouraging their followers and wannabe’s to follow suit. Bullies, whether they’re children or adults, are frequently the traditional in your face jerks. Their predations are overt and, therefore, easier to identify.

But there’s another kind of bully that’s more covert and difficult to identify — the cry baby bully. The bully who goes from smug, unrepentant asshole to a blubbering, sympathy-seeking gaslighter-projector as soon as they get a taste of their own medicine or are called out for their nonsense. Narcissists and their ilk also play cry baby victim when old or new potential targets enforce boundaries and don’t allow themselves to be manipulated or exploited by the narcissist. Why do narcissists, psychopaths and borderlines do this?

Because it’s effective.

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