Sex with a Borderline: Confusing Intensity and Pathology for Intimacy and Passion, Part 1 [Video]

In this video, I debunk the urban legend that borderlines and narcissists are some kind of mythical, magical sexual virtuosos to which healthier (i.e., non-disordered) women and men can’t compare. It’s rubbish.

Furthermore, if you continue to repeat the falsehood you’re undermining your own healing. Once you accept that you have value and worth, you won’t require a narcissist or borderline to love bomb you into an imitation of self-esteem. Additionally, you’ll no longer mythologize the people who have abused and exploited you.

I also explore the characteristics and attributes necessary in order to have real emotional and sexual intimacy. As well as the lack of these qualities and capabilities in personality disordered individuals.

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Sex with a Borderline: Confusing Intensity and Pathology for Intimacy and Passion, Part 1

Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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Video: Love Bombing, Brainwashing, Trauma Bonds, Narcissists and Borderlines, Part 1

Abusers employ tactics similar to the brainwashing techniques used by cults. The goal is to weaken you in order to more easily manipulate and control their targets. This video discusses the stages of how narcissists, borderlines and other characterologically disturbed individuals break down your identity. As your sense of self weakens and you’re manipulated into betraying yourself, you concede power to the abuser.

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Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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How to Love a Woman Who’s Been to Hell and Back [Video]

Run like the wind. Sprint like your butt is on fire. Run as if your life depends on it. Because it does.

Having been abused as a child or in adult relationships neither justifies nor excuses abusing others. Nor does it exempt you from taking responsibility for your behaviors and choices. Even if you have a personality disorder. You’re still responsible for your behaviors and choices as an adult.

Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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Are You Suffering from Emotional Labor? Or Unrealistic Relationship Expectations? [Video]

Gemma Hartley, blogger who penned the viral article, Women Aren’t Nags — We’re Just Fed Up, and book Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women and the Way Forward seems confused. To paraphrase Inigo Montoya, “Emotional labor. You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.” (*Full disclosure: I haven’t read Gemma’s book and have no intention of doing so. The Harper’s Bazaar article was bad enough.)

Gemma seems to have confused the disappointment and resentment she feels due to unrealistic relationship and life expectations with emotional labor. She’s also confusing her choices to make unnecessary work for herself (e.g., elaborately braiding her daughter’s hair or going overboard at Christmas) with emotional labor. Emotional labor is an actual thing, but, I repeat, it does not mean what Gemma thinks it means.

To quote Wikipedia:

Emotional labor is the process of managing feelings and expressions to fulfill the emotional requirements of a job. ^[1][2] More specifically, workers are expected to regulate their emotions during interactions with customers, co-workers and superiors. This includes analysis and decision making in terms of the expression of emotion, whether actually felt or not, as well as its opposite: the suppression of emotions that are felt but not expressed.”

Not exactly what Gemma claims to be suffering, now is it?

Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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Adult Toddlers, Part 1: Traits of Emotionally Immature Narcissists and Borderlines [Video]

When arguing with your wife, husband or ex, have you ever felt like you were dealing with a toddler instead of a middle-aged woman or man? Psychologically speaking, that may very well be the case. Emotionally immature, self-absorbed adults who are incapable of reciprocal relationships typically manage conflict very poorly. And that’s an understatement!

Part 1 of this series discusses the shared characteristics of actual toddlers and adults who behave like toddlers. To read the article click HERE.

Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

Want to Say Goodbye to Crazy? Buy it HERE.