VIDEO Narcissist Fight Club Rule #4: Facts Are Meaningless

Using logic and facts during conflict with narcissists and borderlines doesn’t lead to mutual understanding and resolution. It has the opposite effect. Facts, logic reason and appeals to fairness only enrage the narcissist. Furthermore, the purpose of conflict with narcissistic and borderline individuals isn’t to resolve problems. The purpose of conflict is to provoke and emotional response in the target, which is then added the narcissist’s victim narrative.

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Myth: Narcissists and Borderlines are Exciting and Healthy People are Boring

Actually, the personality disordered are Boring AF.

This video is based on the article, Why Are Narcissists and Borderlines More Exciting Than Healthy Women and Men?

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Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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Boundaries Protect You from Narcissists and Borderlines

Many clients become hyper-focused on spotting personality disorder Red Flags after being in a relationship with an abusive narcissist, borderline or psychopath. They’re reluctant to date again until they feel certain they’ll be able to detect all the warning signs. This is understandable. After being burned that badly, of course you don’t want to go through that kind of soul sucking, gut wrenching, heart breaking, mindfuckery ever again.

After getting violently ill from bad shellfish, you want to be certain the next plate of oysters isn’t toxic. While being able to identify bullies, selfish jerks, the emotionally immature, emotional vampires, the pathologically entitled — whatever you call these individuals — is important, it’s only half the equation. The other half of the equation is YOU.

At the risk of sounding like a broken MP3 file, you have to have boundaries. And having boundaries begins with self-respect and self-care. Self-respect and self-care have a reciprocal relationship. If you respect yourself you take care of yourself. If you take care of yourself you’re less likely to allow others to disrespect and mistreat you.

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Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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VIDEO: Narcissist Fight Club Rule #3: The Fight Isn’t Over Until You Admit You’re Wrong

To a narcissist or borderline, the more right you are the more wrong you are. Conflict is about getting a win. The substance of the argument is irrelevant. The narcissist’s and borderline’s false self demands that they be the “righteous victim.”

Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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VIDEO: Can’t Stop Thinking about the Narcissist or Borderline

Clients are often plagued by seemingly endless ruminations after breaking up with a toxic girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse. This is typically due to codependency and the insidiousness of the trauma bond. In my experience, there are specific kinds of rumination and stages of rumination that track with the grief process.

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Counseling, Consulting and Coaching with Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD

Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD helps individuals work through their relationship and codependency issues via telephone or Skype. She specializes in helping men and women trying to break free of an abusive relationship, cope with the stress of an abusive relationship or heal from an abusive relationship. She combines practical advice, emotional support and goal-oriented outcomes. Please visit the Schedule a Session page for professional inquiries or send an email to shrink4men@gmail.com.

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